Saturday, March 26, 2005 10:52 AM
♥ The Fundamentals of love -- adapted from yy's blog
THE FUNDAMENTALS OF LOVE
Think back to the day when you first laid eyes on her.
You found yourself charmed by the way she talks,
the way she dresses herself to show off her best features
and the way she embraces life with her laughter.
It seemed as if a mysterious "chemistry effect" has
suddenly developed to draw you closer to her.
You two then began to meet regularly,
and you discover more things that you admire about her.
Her clever ideas,
her healthy values
and the way she stands up for you when others doubt you.
You find yourself thinking of her not just as a normal friend,
but a very good friend.
It is often during this period that
a boy and a gal will start
thinking of bringing their friendship to another level.
After all,
the kind of wonderful experience you have with each other
can only become even better if it develops into a romantic relationship.
In other words,
the feeling is really unique
- no one else seems able to replace her in your heart.
So both of you agree to go steady
and work even harder on the relationship.
You "graduate" to become a couple,
and are the envy of the sea of singles.
WHEN YOU FORGET THE FUNDAMENTALS:
However,
at some point in your relationship,
you forgot how it all began.
You start to take your partner for granted.
Why can't she laugh in a more ladylike manner?
Why doesn't she dress herself more trendily?
Why must she assert her views
and point out your silly mistakes?
Is she really the one for you?
To be fair to yourself and her,
take some time to reflect on your "love memory".
The "love memory" contains all the reasons
that you fell in love with her right from Day One.
It contains rarely accessed snippets
of how your life has changed since meeting
and loving her.
Pre-steady days,
did you heap compliments on her
for the brave way she spoke her mind on bullies
and snobs?
You probably did.
Did you like her unusual fashion sense
that makes her stand out from the crowd?
Right-o.
So why are you riticising
or finding fault with her now that she is your girlfriend?
Because you have forgotten the fundamentals of love,
like so many of us.
You have forgotten the reasons
you admired her during the friendship phase.
Instead,
once you went steady,
you put your "love memory" in cold storage.
As her boyfriend,
you take up a new set of demands
and expectations about her.
These new ideas are not necessarily better;
they could put your relationship at risk.
THE SECRET TO LONG RELATIONSHIPS:
A healthy relationship,
like learning to walk properly,
follows a step-by-step development.
You can't possibly become part of a couple
if you aren't friends in the first place.
Ok,
I know some of us break the rule
and plunge straight into whirlwind courtship,
but how many of those couples can go the distance?
Couplehood works well when
there is something you like about her (and vice versa),
and I'm not referring to MERELY the physical aspects.
So whenever your relationship hits a rocky path,
don't give up without checking on your "love memory".
Rediscover the reasons why you fell in love with her,
and watch your relationship flourish
with a newfound vigour.
"Follow the rule of love and enjoy it,
as loving someone is a wonderful
and sweet experience.."
-- adapted from yy's blog --
Think back to the day when you first laid eyes on her.
You found yourself charmed by the way she talks,
the way she dresses herself to show off her best features
and the way she embraces life with her laughter.
It seemed as if a mysterious "chemistry effect" has
suddenly developed to draw you closer to her.
You two then began to meet regularly,
and you discover more things that you admire about her.
Her clever ideas,
her healthy values
and the way she stands up for you when others doubt you.
You find yourself thinking of her not just as a normal friend,
but a very good friend.
It is often during this period that
a boy and a gal will start
thinking of bringing their friendship to another level.
After all,
the kind of wonderful experience you have with each other
can only become even better if it develops into a romantic relationship.
In other words,
the feeling is really unique
- no one else seems able to replace her in your heart.
So both of you agree to go steady
and work even harder on the relationship.
You "graduate" to become a couple,
and are the envy of the sea of singles.
WHEN YOU FORGET THE FUNDAMENTALS:
However,
at some point in your relationship,
you forgot how it all began.
You start to take your partner for granted.
Why can't she laugh in a more ladylike manner?
Why doesn't she dress herself more trendily?
Why must she assert her views
and point out your silly mistakes?
Is she really the one for you?
To be fair to yourself and her,
take some time to reflect on your "love memory".
The "love memory" contains all the reasons
that you fell in love with her right from Day One.
It contains rarely accessed snippets
of how your life has changed since meeting
and loving her.
Pre-steady days,
did you heap compliments on her
for the brave way she spoke her mind on bullies
and snobs?
You probably did.
Did you like her unusual fashion sense
that makes her stand out from the crowd?
Right-o.
So why are you riticising
or finding fault with her now that she is your girlfriend?
Because you have forgotten the fundamentals of love,
like so many of us.
You have forgotten the reasons
you admired her during the friendship phase.
Instead,
once you went steady,
you put your "love memory" in cold storage.
As her boyfriend,
you take up a new set of demands
and expectations about her.
These new ideas are not necessarily better;
they could put your relationship at risk.
THE SECRET TO LONG RELATIONSHIPS:
A healthy relationship,
like learning to walk properly,
follows a step-by-step development.
You can't possibly become part of a couple
if you aren't friends in the first place.
Ok,
I know some of us break the rule
and plunge straight into whirlwind courtship,
but how many of those couples can go the distance?
Couplehood works well when
there is something you like about her (and vice versa),
and I'm not referring to MERELY the physical aspects.
So whenever your relationship hits a rocky path,
don't give up without checking on your "love memory".
Rediscover the reasons why you fell in love with her,
and watch your relationship flourish
with a newfound vigour.
"Follow the rule of love and enjoy it,
as loving someone is a wonderful
and sweet experience.."
-- adapted from yy's blog --
Thursday, March 24, 2005 9:43 AM
♥
Hep! This was my class, 05S06(1st intake)!
9:05 AM
♥ Yandao chiobu
Who see yandao never introduce?
Who see chiobu never introduce?
Here in JJ now we introduce!
Yandao chiobu yandao chiobu now we introduce!
JJ kermama!
Miss you guys!
Monday, March 21, 2005 3:02 PM
♥ Long long time
Wow! It's been so long that I had not been updating my blog. Well... Basically, many things are happening now. Still trying to solve everything in the best manner. But for the past few days, had been working. I earned like a week's pocket money each day! Wow! Now waiting for two major things. One of which is of course my results of wadever poly and whichever course. Another one is... My pay! ~Wahahahaha!I saw that puzzle today! Got different no. of peices for that puzzle. Oh gosh! How I want the 500 pieces one! Not too big, not too small! Just the right size! However, the price also very nice.
300 pieces - 30 bucks +
1000 pieces - 50 bucks +
OMG! Can you wonder how much does the 500 pieces one costs? Oh gosh! Then want to buy 2 DVDs.
1 - 14.90 bucks
2 - 28 bucks
Still deciding want to buy not. Although the price looks better than the puzzle, but I just couldn't decide! 'Cos dunone anyhow spend my hard earned pay! ~Haha! Should I or shouldn't I? Just couldn't decide! Oh dear...
Well well... School is fun afterall. But not as fun I should say. 'Cos it's like no Larger, then S.T. sometimes disappear suddenly one. Ediot oso sian sian one. So it's like, days are not that lame as b4 lah... So sad! Then these few days keep on spending money on this and on that. Now Owe mother money liao... ~Orh...
Tml getting our posting. OMG! Dunnoe where will they post me to! Later post me to TP den I die already. It's like... Bukit Timah to Tampines! Tt's like... Wow! Think tml slp longer. Den wake up later, so that the JAE thingy will not explode. Go be pig liao... So sian... Play rose like exp getting lower like this... My rose stinks!
Maybe should consider buying Sims2. Got expansion pack now liao some more. Than S.T. keep on asking me to play sims with PS2 when I dun even own one PS! That's like... dotz... And tupid S.T. got money buy PS and the games, no money to change a red moniter screen and pentium 2. Really dumb lehz...
Tuesday, March 08, 2005 6:11 PM
♥ True
I wont talkI wont breathe
I wont move till you finally see
That you belong with me
You might think I dont look
But deep inside
In the corner of my mind
Im attached to you
Im weak
Its true
Cuz im afraid to know the answer
Do you want me too?
Cuz my heart keeps falling faster
I've waited all my life
To cross this line
To the only thing thats true
So I will not hide
Its time to try
Anything to be with you
All my life I've waited
This is true
You dont know what you do
Everytime you walk into the room
Im afraid to move
Im weak
Its true
Im just scared to know the ending
Do you see me too?
Do you even know u met me?
I've waited all my life to cross this line
To the only thing thats true
So I will not hide
Its time to try anything to be with you
All my life I've waited
This is true
I know when I go ill be on my way to you
The way thats true
I've waited all my life to cross this line
To the only thing thats true
So I will not hide
Its time to try anything to be with you
All my life I've waited
This is true
Monday, March 07, 2005 1:37 PM
♥ Live twice
Don't leave nowNot yet
There were time we regret
And I'm sorry
Somehow
I only
Wanted to make you proud
If I could only let you know
I'd give up everything I own
For just one more day with you
There's nothing I wouldn't do
I could not let it pass me by
If I make every sacrifice
To bring me back your love
If only we could live twice
If only we could live twice
When you told me
I froze
It still echoes
In my soul
Please forgive me
If I didn't say
I love you
Every single day
If I could only let you know
I'd give up everything I own
For just one more day with you
There's nothing I wouldn't do
I could not let it pass me by
If I make every sacrifice
To bring me back your love
If only we could live twice
If only we could live twice
Nobody told me we'd only get one chance
I didn't know that our tide would turn so fast
Why we have to say goodbye I don't understand
If I could only let you know
I'd give up everything I own
For just one more day with you
There's nothing I wouldn't do
I could not let it pass me by
If I make every sacrifice
To bring me back your love
If only we could live twice
I could not let it pass me by
Nothing I give to sacrifice
To bring me back your love
If only we could live twice
If only we could live twice
We'll meet in another life
If only we could live twice
Friday, March 04, 2005 2:46 PM
♥ Sometimes When We Touch
You ask me if I love youand I choke on my reply
I'd rather hurt you honestly
than mislead you with a lie
And who am I to judge you
in what you say or do
I'm only just beginning
to see the real you
And sometimes when we touch
the honesty's too much
and I have to close my eyes and hide
I want to hold you till I die
till we both break down and cry
I want to hold you till the fear in me subsides
Romance and all it's strategy
leaves me battling with my pride
But through all the insecurity
some tenderness survives
I'm just another writer
still trapped within my truth
A hesitant prize fighter
still trapped within my youth
And sometimes when we touch
the honesty's too much
and I have to close my eyes and hide
I want to hold you till I die
till we both break down and cry
I want to hold you till the fear in me subsides
At times I'd like to break you
and drive you to your knees
At times I'd like to break through
and hold you endlessly
At times I understand you
and I know how hard you try
I watched while love commands you
and I've watched love pass you by
At times I think we're drifters
still searching for a friend
a brother or a sister
but then the passion flares again
And sometimes when we touch
the honesty's too much
and I have to close my eyes and hide
I want to hold ya till I die
till we both break down and cry
I want to hold you till the fear in me subsides
Subsides
Wednesday, March 02, 2005 6:30 PM
♥ Thanks ppl, I'm touched...
-= I'm very grateful for what you all had done. That's what I can say now. =-Well... As for today, I did my assignment during lecture today! And doing assignment in LT = Not paying attention for Binomial Theorem. Anyway, it doesn't matter anymore. Then went for break. Thought the break 1h long sia... Den it was like, 0930h, they all stood up and prepare to go for lesson already and guessed what I asked!
Me: Where are you all going?
JM: Chinse lor...
Me: I thought is 1h break?
I admit I'm blur at times lah... Heee... :) Well... I never brought anything for Chinese lah... 'Cos I thought they wanted to skip from Chinese onwards. Then it was like I listening to music during Chinese tutorial, then asked the teacher whether I can make a call DURING her tutorial lor... Like a bit attitude hor? Heee... Then after 2 periods of Chinese, We started playing games during the next 2 periods of Chinese. Played Tian Cai Fa Ming De Dao Zhuang Ju, Zhong Ji Mi Ma and The Pyramid Game... Well... Had fun and almost the whole class skipped GP. Yes, we are that bad! Heee...
Kai Lun, Jia Min and I then went Orchard to take a walk. *I'm sorry Jia Min! To make you miss an OGL meeting. I promise you I'll crash the next OGL meeting!* Well... Window shopped Lot 1 yesterday, so today Heeren's and Cine's turn. Then saw Fat Cat at Mini Toons there. So coincidence sia! Haha! Then went Sakae eat buffet lunch. Kai Lun forked out 35 bucks. Not bad already leh... Actually should fork out 40 bucks one... I help pay leh... See, I so good! Then hor... Next time dun ever go sakae with KL lah... Go order so 4 plates of soft shell crab and made me so full!!! Felt like vomitting sia... Was so damn full that I don't want to walk!!! I hate crabs now!!! Anyway, thanks for the company today. Tml maybe going to find Lee Ning out... Heee...
The three of us then took a bus home lah... I was the first to fell asleep before the other 2... I think I'm the 2nd to wake up... Tt tupid Kai Lun woke up 1st... Anyway... Was very the tired lah... Well... Now still very full... Heee...
And Teck Wei... Dun snatch place with me! Haha!
Tuesday, March 01, 2005 4:20 PM
♥ *Disappointed
I'm disappointedVery disappointed indeed
In myself, in my results
I can't believe I did that bad
I didn't expect myself to get such a high score
I'm lost
I don't know where to go
I have no idea what to do
What I know
Is that I'd failed to meet my basic requirement
Yes, I'd brought disappointment
I'd brought disgrace
All I can say
Is I'm sorry
Very sorry for everything
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Special thanks to:
My best friend, Lee Ning.
[I know what you had done yesterday (secretly). I'm touched. Thank you so much. May we remain as best friends, even after we get posted to different places.]
Wei Dong
[For the advice you had gave. Thanks for your words.]
Jia Min
[Thanks for the everything you had done today. The soft toy, and your company.]
Kai Lun
[Thanks for the everything you had done today and yesterday. Thanks for your company as well.]
Cheryl
[Thanks for the company you provided yesterday at school.]
Zhong Teck
[Thanks for the short chat through sms.]
Wei Jie, Lian Kiat, Marvin and I anyone else I had left out.
[For the concern gave. Sorry if I had left anyone's name out, and thanks for the everything and anything.]
I'm sorry for the worries I had caused yesterday. Yes, I'm alright now. No worries. I'm still smiling... :)